Posts by benTED87

6 Ways To Show Yourself Love After Divorce

Posted by on Jun 5, 2017 in Divorce, Raising Self-Esteem, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Divorce is one of the most stressful events of a person’s life. It is a time of loss and pain. It is the death of the life you thought you would have, the death of your family unit as one. It is a time of grieving for those thoughts and dreams you had. Going through the stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) is the path to healing after divorce. There is no set time frame or order for these steps and each individual has their own path they will follow. Along this journey of renewal, it is also the time to show yourself the love you deserve from the person...

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6 Tips For Controlling Your Emotions During Divorce

Posted by on May 9, 2017 in Divorce, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Divorce brings about a roller coaster of emotions before, during and after the actual divorce is granted. One day you might be so angry at your soon to be ex that you can’t even see straight and the next day you could be blinded by your tears at your feelings of failure in one of the most important relationships of your life. Days later you look back and regret how you responded to a nasty email sent by your ex and that you let him get to you. Anger, resentment, guilt, feelings of betrayal, vindictiveness or self-hatred can surely take over your whole being during a divorce and it is not...

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Aren’t There Any Average Kids Anymore?

Posted by on Jan 2, 2017 in Parenting Teens | 0 comments

Every parent of a high schooler knows that 11th grade is a tough year.. SAT/ACT prep, driver’s ed, AP classes, college visits… You’d think after a year with all of that, senior year would be a breeze.. well, guess what? It’s not!!! Senior year brings on a whole new set of stressors. Your teen is now choosing the college she wants to attend and then applies there, plus 9 other “safety” schools.. just in case she doesn’t get in to her ED (Early Decision) choice. Don’t forget, there is also ED2. If your daughter doesn’t get into her first choice (she will find out sometime in...

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5 Life Lessons Single Moms Can Learn from Their Children

Posted by on Nov 29, 2016 in Divorce, Parenting Children, Parenting Teens | 0 comments

As parents, we learn it is our job to teach our children life lessons both big and small. We want to protect our children from all that is bad in this world and enrich their lives with all good things. Unfortunately, this is not always possible, particularly when going through one of life’s most stressful and sad times.. a divorce. No one gets married with the intention of getting divorced. But it happens. While we try to get through it as best we can, many times it might seem we’re doing everything wrong, and to make that even worse, our kids are watching. It is important to know that...

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Pump it Up! 7 Ways To Increase Your Own Self-Esteem

Posted by on Oct 22, 2016 in Raising Self-Esteem | 0 comments

Pump it Up! 7 Ways To Increase Your Own Self-Esteem

Getting divorced can bring out the worst in anybody. Your ex might try to find numerous ways to put you down and make you feel worthless. You might be putting yourself down along the way as well. Depending on your circumstances you might say, “If only I were prettier/smarter/ nicer/ more tolerant..etc, maybe my marriage could have worked out.” “No one will ever want to be with me now that I am divorced.” “If I couldn’t make my marriage work I am a failure/no good/a horrible person..etc”.  These negative statements do nothing to help and everything to destroy your...

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