Most parents know their children will eventually do/try/experiment in some risky behaviors but there are some areas that you might not even think of for your younger teen. Research has shown that certain behaviors, such as sexting, is running rampant between teens growing up in the digital age. This behavior is even occurring in middle schoolers. Those who send pictures are more likely to engage in sexual activity at an earlier age. Also, they might have less awareness of their feelings and greater difficulty regulating their emotions. Most have feeling of low self worth and seek out attention from others in inappropriate manners.   So what can we do about it?

  • Have a general discussion with your child about using electronics and the importance of making smart choices as to what to post or send. Remind them that once they send a topless picture or discuss any potential sexual behavior they may engage in that message or picture is out there in cyber world forever. While she/he thinks they might be writing or sending something privately to another teen many will share with their friends to either brag or simply disregard the sender’s wishes.
  • Make sure your child knows you can and will monitor their online activity at any time. Know all of their passwords and what sites they are on.
  • Have the “talk” with your kids about sex even if you don’t think they are sexting or are sexually active and even if it makes one or both of you uncomfortable.
  • Make sure your child knows they have the right to say no when someone requests a naked picture. If your child respects his/herself they will, hopefully, make smart choices.

 

Important Notice: The information presented above is provided for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for consulting a psychologist or other mental health professional to discuss your unique situation. If you would like to talk with me about it, you may call my office at 914-329-5355.