Posts by benTED87

Pump it Up! 7 Ways To Increase Your Own Self-Esteem

Posted by on Oct 22, 2016 in Raising Self-Esteem | 0 comments

Pump it Up! 7 Ways To Increase Your Own Self-Esteem

Getting divorced can bring out the worst in anybody. Your ex might try to find numerous ways to put you down and make you feel worthless. You might be putting yourself down along the way as well. Depending on your circumstances you might say, “If only I were prettier/smarter/ nicer/ more tolerant..etc, maybe my marriage could have worked out.” “No one will ever want to be with me now that I am divorced.” “If I couldn’t make my marriage work I am a failure/no good/a horrible person..etc”.  These negative statements do nothing to help and everything to destroy your...

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How to Minimize the Mental Health Impact of Divorce on Your Children

Posted by on Oct 3, 2016 in Divorce, Parenting Children, Parenting Teens, Uncategorized | 0 comments

How to Minimize the Mental Health Impact of Divorce on Your Children

Anyone in the throes of a divorce knows that there are many different emotions involved ranging from sadness, anger, anxiety to relief, contentment and peace. Realize your children will also have varying degrees of emotions throughout the process that should also be addressed. Normal reactions for children during a divorce could be anger, anxiety or mild depression. They might become more irritable and possibly regress in behavior. Some teens might rebel and get themselves into trouble. If you are not cautious, your divorce may affect your children’s mental health. As their parent, you have...

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7 Ways Divorce Makes You a Better, Stronger Person

Posted by on Sep 5, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Most people usually don’t get married with the intention of then getting divorced. That being said, making the decision to get divorced (or having it made for you) can be one of the most stressful, upsetting and scary times in a person’s life. The Social Readjustment Rating Scale, better known as the Holmes And Rahe Stress Scale, lists the top 10 most stressful events that can then cause illness in an adult. The number one most stressful event in an adult’s life is the death of a spouse with the second most stressful event being marital separation. When the scale was modified for...

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10 Tips For Learning How To Love Yourself

Posted by on Aug 23, 2016 in Raising Self-Esteem | 0 comments

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha.   There is nothing more important when it comes to living a fulfilling and rewarding life than self-love. While most people know this from a logical standpoint, it is sometimes a very difficult thing to do. Good questions to ask yourself are, “What are my obstacles to finding self-love?” “What does it take for me to actually show myself the love I know I deserve and crave?” Below I offer some tips to start your journey to truly getting the love you want from the most...

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10 Positive Lessons Children Learn From Divorce

Posted by on Jul 24, 2016 in Divorce, Parenting Children, Parenting Teens | 0 comments

10 Positive Lessons Children Learn From Divorce

We constantly read about the negative impact of divorce on children. We, as parents know that our children need special concern and attention while we navigate the divorce process and rebuild our lives. And, we attempt to give them everything they are owed. We rarely hear about the positive impacts of divorce or the ways divorce can change our children for the better. Change them in ways that will, contrary to belief be beneficial as they grow. In spite of what you read children of divorce learn some very positive life lessons that are not always negative ones. 10 Positive Lessons Children...

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